A willingness to accept change
One of the tough things that I have had to learn to deal with is change. I really believe that in order to be able to move forward in our lives we need to be willing to accept the changes in our life. A lot of the changes are really out of your control. You did not choose for the loved one in your life to die. It happened, whether you believe it is part of God's plan or not, there is nothing that you can do now to change that fact. Change is happening to you.
I am personally just now coming to grip with the fact that things have changed and my life will never be the same. God blessed me with nine wonderful years with Will, that will never change. I miss him everyday. The life I once knew is a collection of wonderful memories but it is time to embrace the future. Change is scary. Change takes you out of your personal comfort zone and forces you to adapt or flee.
How much did the last revision of Facebook drive you crazy? I know that was just a small change in someone's life but I heard plenty of complaints. Once you realized that Facebook had changed and you were stuck with it, you began to explore. There were some changes with the new version that you liked and there were some that just didn't make sense at all. It is not a great example but the same can be applied to a grieving person's life.
Once you have learned to accept the changes in your life, you will begin to find some things that make you smile again and there will be things that just don't make sense any more. There maybe very few things you find that make you smile at first. Celebrate each and every one of them. Make note of things that don't make you happy and avoid them when you can. Do not let those things that make you unhappy chase you away from what it is important. What is important is finding a balance in your life that allows you to move forward, one day at a time.
Breathe deep, you can do it.
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